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I am not sure if I was pregnant and miscarried or never
pregnant at all.
This is a very common question. Many people who are late,
but begin bleeding before taking a pregnancy test, or have a negative test, assume that they were
pregnant and miscarried. The evidence for this piles up when the
cramps are stronger, there is more blood, and maybe even clots are passed.
This information is provided to help you figure
out what happened. We don't want to invalidate anyone's sense of
loss, but to help you determine if it was indeed a loss.
Sometimes the first time a really strange period comes along, we
think it might be a miscarriage. But there are many causes of
unusual periods. In fact, after about age 36, it's possible that
all your periods are going to be strange--heavy, stringy,
clotted, painful. When that first begins, it IS scary.
have had a positive pregnancy test, this information is not for
you. There is no doubt you were pregnant. Light bleeding is
common in pregnancy and may not signal the end if it stops shortly after it
starts. See symptoms for more information. Also
try the miscarriage
One important note: If your blood type is
Rh negative (such as O negative, A negative, B negative, or AB
negative), you MUST have a shot to prevent building antibodies after
a miscarriage if the father was Rh positive. If you even suspect a
miscarriage, find out your blood type and see a doctor right away
(within 72 hours) to determine if you need the shot to protect your
Here's some information that might help you
understand unusual periods that are not miscarriages, especially
if you had a negative pregnancy test:
But my period was so heavy and painful. Any late period is going to be heavy.
A late period is caused by extra time being added to the first half of the
cycle, which is when the lining is being built. If more lining is built, it
will cause more blood flow and stronger cramps to get it out. Blood clots
are a natural part of any lining that has had to hang around longer than
intended. Late periods are often caused by illness, stress, serious physical
exertion, or hormone changes.
But I timed intercourse just right, and my period came early. An early period is almost never a miscarriage.
An early period is often caused by a lack of ovulation, or the ovulation
of an egg that is not able to be fertilized. As a result, progesterone is not produced
sufficiently to keep the last part of your cycle going. In this situation, a
pregnancy cannot happen. Even a positive ovulation test does not mean your
ovulation will surely happen or will produce a quality egg. If you are
charting your temperatures, however, and see that you did not
have at least 10 days between ovulation and when your periods
began, you may have a luteal phase defect. Read
more about it.
But I saw some tissue that must have been a pregnancy. A baby from a pregnancy that made your period less than two weeks late is not
usually visible to the naked eye.
Even if the baby had grown, it would be about the size of a grain of rice.
This would be impossible to see amongst the blood and clots. What you are
seeing may be part of a pregnancy, but is more likely just clots and uterine
lining from an off-month cycle.
But I got this huge golf-ball sized clot I've never seen before. It had to
be a baby. Tissue that is like a ball is often what is called a corpus luteum cyst, and
not a baby.
An extra long or extra short period can be caused when the shell that once
housed the egg (called the corpus luteum) swells in size and throws off the
hormone chain. This ball will come out in the period, leaving many women to
believe they were pregnant, when actually they had a non-viable egg that
Without a positive pregnancy test, it is impossible to know for sure if
you were pregnant. If you are actively trying to get pregnant, and have had
several suspicious periods, then it is time to get tested for a luteal phase
defect. You may indeed be losing babies due to low progesterone. One way to
possibly find out is get to the doctor immediately when you think you are
pregnant but start bleeding heavily (do not wait, even a day or two) and have a
quantitative hCG blood pregnancy test done. Any hCG in your
system would show that you were at one point pregnant. Otherwise, unless your
blood type is Rh negative, you should not need to worry about a lost pregnancy.