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In the book trailer for the novel Baby Dust, eight women talk about their losses and how they are ready to speak freely to friends and family about their babies.

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Baby Dust: 
A Novel about Miscarriage and Pregnancy Loss

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"Absolutely stunning, compelling...the truth of what women go through."

Robyn Bear
founder of
Pregnancy Loss
Remembrance Day

"Baby Dust sheds a light on the all-too taboo subject of miscarriage in a raw, compelling, and incredibly realistic way."

Kristin Cook
founder of
Faces of Loss,
Faces of Hope

If you read Baby Dust and fell in love with Stella, the leader of the miscarriage group, she now has her own book of how she and her husband met. No sadness here, just a roller coaster romance between two out-of-the-box characters.

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When a friend or family member loses her baby

The most important thing to remember when someone you love tells you this devastating news is to listen. You may want to offer some sort of advice or say something to minimize her pain, but it is very hard to say the right thing. Almost impossible. The only truly safe things to say are: 

"I am so sorry."

"I will help you in any way I can. Tell me what I can do."

"I am here to listen whenever you need me."

As you read over this site, you will see what she will be facing in the next days and weeks. You will learn she will have a number of phases of grief herself, and that the physical changes in her body might sometimes make it difficult for you to communicate with her or for her to tell you what is happening. Some of the details are embarrassing or frightening, such as bleeding or risks or pain. Others are inexplicable, such as why she can't stop crying, or why she and her partner are seeming to fall away from each other.

During this time, your unconditional understanding is critical. Do not criticize her choices or insist on any particular behavior. Comfort her, listen, and offer your help. She will work through this best with a steady, calm friend, not someone pushing another agenda, or another set of solutions on her.

One section of this site to read carefully is

http://www.pregnancyloss.info/dealing_with_others.htm

This will show you the many ugly faces that coworkers, family members, and friends sometimes show, even if unintentional. Don't let this be you!

Send her flowers. A teddy bear for the baby. Give a donation to some child-related or miscarriage organization. Show her what happened to her matters, or if she wants to not talk about it for a while, let her steer the conversation. Don't press for information she may not be able to give.

If you are pregnant, please realize this is a difficult place to be. Don't exclude her from showers or activities, but be clear you do not expect her to attend if she isn't up for it. Try to be tasteful in your mentioning your condition--let her bring it up. Yes, it is a joyful time for you, but spread your joy to others for now, and understand that when she is ready to talk about your baby or take part in that area of your life, she will do it on her own.